Mentoring
If you have experienced narcissistic abuse, it can leave you questioning your reality, your self worth, and your capacity to trust yourself or others. Mentoring offers a structured, supportive way to make sense of what has happened, rebuild your emotional well being, and move towards safer, healthier relationships. It also supports those who are presently in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic and need guidance to stay safe, understand the dynamics, and plan their next steps.
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Our online mentoring service is designed for people recovering from narcissistic abuse in romantic relationship contexts, family systems, workplaces, or other abusive relationships, as well as those who are currently in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic and seeking clarity and support. You might be navigating the aftermath of a narcissistic partner, a narcissistic ex, a current narcissistic partner, a narcissistic mother, or another family member whose narcissistic tendencies have shaped your life.
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You may have left the relationship, be preparing to leave, or still be in contact due to children, mutual friends, finances, or broader social ties. Wherever you are in your healing journey, mentoring can help you create a clearer path through the healing process.
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Mentoring with Narc & Co can be used as a tool alongside clinical work or licensed therapy. While therapy such as talk therapy, eye movement desensitisation, or psychodynamic therapy may be part of your recovery process, mentoring provides practical, psychologically-informed guidance that focuses on stabilisation, understanding narcissistic personality disorder and related personality disorders, and helping you recover from narcissistic abuse at your own pace.
What is Mentoring?
Mentoring is a collaborative, goal-focused relationship in which you work with a trained mentor to understand your experiences and build the skills and self-awareness needed for narcissistic abuse recovery. Our mentors are specialists in narcissistic abuse and the behavioural patterns that often develop in response to abuse. We support clients who have experienced emotional abuse, coercive control, manipulation, gaslighting, and other abusive behaviour that commonly occurs within narcissistic relationships.
Mentoring provides a safe space to:​
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• Explore what you have lived through, including the trauma inflicted and the ways the abuse happened.
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• Develop increasing awareness of narcissistic abuse patterns and your emotional triggers.
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• Learn about narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality styles, and other personality disorders in a clear, grounded way.
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• Strengthen emotional regulation and nervous system stability after prolonged abuse.
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• Rebuild self esteem, self compassion, and self validation.
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• Practise healthy boundaries and learn how to set boundaries consistently.
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• Reduce self blame, shame, and confusion.
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• Work towards fulfilling relationships and healthy relationships in the future.
Benefits of Mentoring for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a complex process. The impact can involve grief, fear, difficulty trusting, values confusion, and changes in mental health. Many people describe feeling as though their identity has been dismantled, with self worth and self esteem left fragile. Mentoring helps you rebuild in a steady, supported way.
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Key benefits include:
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Clarity and validation
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Understanding the dynamics
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Restoring emotional stability
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Rebuilding self esteem and self worth
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Practical tools for boundary setting
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Support that fits your life
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Strengthening your support system
Our Three-Phase Mentoring Approach
Below is a summary of Narc & Co's three phase online mentoring approach. The three phases are designed with a beginning middle and end, are flexible, and based on individual need. We recognise people seeking mentoring with our service will enter with a variety of needs and be at different points of individual development, with different external circumstances. Therefore, our three-phase mentoring approach is but a guide to how we might work with you.
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You are not tied into a contract or timeframe and are free to discontinue the work at any point in time. You will also receive a mentoring agreement following the first session, outlining both mentor and mentee's responsibilities and expectations.
Phase One
Phase one is the phase of exploration. Along with your mentor, you will spend time exploring the experiences that brought you to the point of accessing the Narc & Co mentoring service. Phase one will enable you and your mentor to start building a trusting working relationship. Together with your mentor you will work to discover the areas of support most likely to be of benefit to you, your goals, and expectations of mentoring with Narc & Co.
Phase Two
Phase two will offer in depth psychoeducation, helping you gain further understanding of the psychological and behavioural characteristics pertaining to narcissistic personality styles and personality disorder. Further, your mentor will help you to gain a deeper understanding of your co-dependent behavioural patterns and how they have contributed to your relationship difficulties. Depending on your individual circumstances you will begin to learn more about your vulnerabilities to narcissistic abuse, making connections with how your parenting experiences may have contributed to you developing co-dependent personality traits.
Phase Three
Phase three will give focus to relevant behaviour changes you will need to make, aiding healing from narcissistic abuse. Depending on your individual circumstance, you will spend time with your mentor, developing a greater understanding of your core beliefs; changing your core beliefs; internal and external boundary setting, self-validation; separating from, and leaving the narcissist if applicable; helping you to re-engage with self-interests.
Mentors
Narc & Co mentors have extensive personal experience with recovery from narcissistic abuse. Your mentor will empathize, educate and support you to grow your skills, make healthier decisions, and gain new perspectives on your life.
